Why do you wake up every day? No, I’m not asking you why you can’t sleep any longer. What motivates you to live this day? What is your driving force? Who is that person that you want to become?
These are the questions that ideally should have bothered you at least once in your life. Why is it even important to set goals? Can you live your life without setting any goals at all?
Yes, you can. I lived. It wasn’t that bad, and I would probably live it again. But as you turn 18, things are getting a little bit more complex. As you get bothered with questions how to provide for yourself, at least, the life without goals scares all the rainbow unicorns pretty quickly. It’s time to grow up and learn how to set goals.
As a teenager, I didn’t even know what the goal is and how to set it in reality. Why? Well, I had never really thought about it to come up with anything meaningful. So, I was looking for other ways to fulfil my life.
From my own observations, the first thing that my brain did having no goals was looking either for entertainment or things to get depressed about.
As I didn’t have much understanding of what should I be doing, I was just trying to kill the time using all the available methods. The first idea that came to my mind was that I could be playing computer games.
Oh, boy, I enjoyed killing tons of monsters or farming mobs as the gamers call it. Why? After you’ve nailed some juicy portion of quests and got bored, you need to do some hardcore farming to level up a little and then you can access higher dungeons with cool guys.
So, when you’ve brothered up with some random top notch guys, you can easily farm the dungeons. They do all the dirty job and because it’s so easy for them you just loot (gather) all the drop (cool things like armors, weapons, etc.). After several hours of gathering and honorable begging, you are almost equal to those cool guys.
Computer games filled up a fair part of my time and robbed me of 6 years of my life.
Whatever time couldn’t be killed with computer games was bombarded with thousands of YouTube videos of gameplays, “top 10 funny cats videos” and other shit like that.
Occasionally, I also got depressed along the way. Sometimes because of my school studies, sometimes because I wasn’t leveling up in the game fast enough, and I was actually trying my best to do some smart goal setting in the game as I see it now.
Sometimes I just felt lonely because I knew people who were walking with friends, chilling, having fun, achieving things, setting personal goals, and here I was, sitting and playing the damn computer. But I liked it in a way. However, these periods of loneliness made me a little bit shy and anxious for some time.
Well, now let’s have a look at what a life without goals may also look like even though it seems pretty friendly.
Once, I asked my mom about her goals in life. It was as simple as “Ma, what are your goals?”. “My goals? I just want to live and see you, my children, happy.” The emotional reaction was a little more harsh, and whenever I asked this question I was always misunderstood.
Well, don’t get me wrong, I love my mother and I’ll do everything to help my family, but this is something that I’m struggling to understand. How one can spend their life going to work, getting back home, watching movies until the night comes and refusing to believe that this is not the life that you want to live.
If you see it this way, where your only “goal” is to live, just live, your life, and you have some job that just keeps you alive and gives you a possibility to pay your bills, then we have a slightly different understanding of what it is to “live the life”.
What is that thing that happened in your life that you’re ready to lose control of your life and let it flow uncontrollably? How are you not afraid not to do anything that will make your life more vivid, passionate and colorful?
How do you even regain interest in living your life? Or how are you not losing it?
I just don’t get how you could be setting your goals all the way up till this moment, and now you simply want to stop moving anywhere and just blending and compressing your life into one pointless day?
If you’re such a person with these believes or you’ve figured things out, please, answer these questions in the comments.
If you don’t want to end up feeling like you didn’t achieve anything life, then it’s absolutely vital to set goals. Have you ever had doubts as to whether or not you should set your goals and why do you need to set goals?
Here is an incredible goal example and the power of willing to achieve things.
When you set a goal, you actually start willing to do something. You want something from life and that something becomes your driving force.
I bet this guy would spend his spare time learning the piano composition simply because it touched him to the very depth of his heart.
A goal gives you a direction in life. You won’t be blown away by some random wind blow because you know where you have to go and you stand your ground firmly.
A person without a goal can be easily tricked, offended and taken off the course because this person has nothing to believe in, nothing to be inspired by, nothing to stand up for.
Recently, I went to a supermarket to buy some food, and they’ve got some kind of “predictions” or some “life quotes” on their checks. Just the same day I actually started writing this article, and it was a funny coincidence when I got the “prediction” on the check. It said: “You’re lost if you have no goal.”
This is like the most cliched cliche but it’s true. How do you know where you need to go tomorrow if you don’t define it for yourself?
When you set a goal that matters to you, ideally, here is what you can expect from yourself:
Some time ago I have tried compiling goal setting worksheet, used Google docs to polish the document with my goals to perfection. I would let my inner weird designer do the job. Once it took me nearly 5 hours to complete writing the list of goals and making it look like a white paper.
Never worked out for me. I never achieved those things that I tried to make look perfect. It was not the goal that attracted me, but the idea that I was doing something meaningful when, in fact, I wasn’t.
So, what I use now instead is a pen and any piece of paper that’s at hand right now. I put down what I want to achieve and when I want to achieve it (approximately). Speaking about “why” I need to achieve it, I usually think about it in the process. However, most of the time I just want it so badly. Like the guy wanted to learn the piano composition. When I’m done, I throw the paper away or put it somewhere where I can find it later.
I always set some kind of timer for myself. I needed to decide the time when I want to achieve my goals because then I could return to the paper where the goal was written and kick my butt if I had failed to achieve it.
Why is it important to set goals that are time-bound and specific such as I want to buy a car that will cost me $5,000 by 2020? Because it gives you understanding what you want and when you want it. For now, you may not be ready to even be able to do that. But by the time you have to achieve the goal, you’ll learn how.
I actually found out that the less time I give myself to achieve the goal the more chances I have to at least start working towards it. So, it’s another thing that you can use if you’re a terrible procrastinator like me.
If you’re looking for a magic pill to achieve your goals in life like I did at some period, then stop wasting your time on it. Setting goals is “as simple as making yourself a cup of tea”. However, It does take some effort, you don’t enjoy spilling sugar all over the floor, you don’t like when your tea bag string breaks, but you keep making it because you want the damn tea.
Plant a seed in your head that you want something, and start working towards achieving your goal ignoring all the noise along the way. Make your goal a tasty cup of tea that you’ll enjoy.
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