I can’t do what I love simply because I don’t feel passionate about what I’m doing. However hard I try to get the passion for a hobby back, I can’t. Moreover, I don’t want to. I have many other interesting things to do such as digital painting, 3D-printing, music, etc.
Something that I truly loved doing is now all gone. I can’t focus on my hobby, and it’s no longer interesting for me. Moreover, I don’t really want to do anything. I’ve lost interest in my friends, and I all want is to disappear. What should I do to get the passion back for life?
Chances that you’re playing games now, watching millions of series, or listening to tons of music paying close attention to lyrics and overlaying it to fit your current life situation are pretty high.
You might have noticed that you avoid multitasking, and instead, you do very monotonous effortless activities such as farming mobs in a very familiar game, listening to your favorite music that you’ve already listened to millions of times, but it’s still meaningful to you as it helps you recall certain memories.
Probably, you’ve been doing it for hours now, and you feel like you may be getting less responsible for your life but you don’t really care. You just want to enjoy your time and the last thing you want to do is forcing yourself to do things that you “must” do or other “obligatory” crap like studying, self-developing, working hard, etc. First, you thought that you’re procrastinating on your interests but now you’re just ignoring them.
You may call it depression, but I’d rather call it reinvention. Come on, you’ve already been in a similar situation, you may have even noticed that it happens in cycles. This is not depression, this is just a reassessment of your current lifestyle, hobbies, and interests.
You can try to force yourself to do certain things that you think you liked just to make sure you’re not a lazy fuck who is looking for justification, self-appraisal or kick in the ass.
When you find out that it didn’t help try a different thing. You may get back to some of your very first childhood hobbies and try these ones. If you feel like collecting marks sucks, then try a new hobby. You’re probably looking for new experiences in life and it should not necessarily be a hobby. It’s just something interesting, unusual, and exciting.
Even though according to Merriam-Webster dictionary, a hobby is a regular activity that you do for relaxation or entertainment, I wouldn’t 100% agree with it.
I would only argue with the word “regular.” I don’t know about you, but all my hobbies are chaotic. Most of the things that I do are impulsive and unplanned. These are the two characteristics that keep me interested in whatever I do: impulsiveness and excitement that follows it. For example, I used to do digital drawing in Photoshop. I can draw for 8 hours straight today and then forget about drawing for a few months. In contrast, I can draw every day during a week and then produce another picture a few weeks later. My hobby either drawing, 3D-printing, or playing guitar is very disorganized.
I don’t have a “picture collection plan” or “10 songs I need to learn next”. I don’t have any plan at all. I usually wait for creativity to strike me and then I’m in the flow, I’m doing my thing. I’m passionate, excited, and fully absorbed in my hobby. When I’ve finally finished drawing a picture, learning a song, or printing an object I usually go into a relaxation phase because I’ve just dried out my creativity, potential, and energy.
It’s like I sit down to torture myself for several hours only to feel free and fulfilled when I’m done. Then, at an absolutely random time, day, or year I can come back to my hobby and do it again because “I feel like doing it.” I feel inspired and creative. My muse is here. I can do anything.
This is how some of the things work in life. You push very hard to get it and then you also chill very long to recover.
There is nothing wrong with feeling that you’ve lost your passion for life and you’re not interested in anything. It’s only bad when you have no idea what to do with it. However, maybe it’s for the better.
I bet you’ve already lost your interest in life a thousand times but you naturally found the way out. Even though you may have developed stress and anxiety in the process of not knowing what happened to you, the solution would eventually come as unexpectedly as you’ve sunk into this state of uncertainty.
So, next time instead of trying to force yourself to follow the trend and image of having 10 hobbies, constantly self-improving, working hard and succeeding try to feel your reinvention phase of life. This is a necessary process of re-evaluating your interests, believes, life values, and recover from intense work.
Lost your passion for a hobby? Stop punching yourself for that. Focus on the current moment and don’t let your hobby become a pain in the ass and grow into a major depressive disorder. To prevent that from happening sleep well around 8 hours at night and spend more time outside doing active things or just walking.
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