“I am 19, and I don’t know what to do with my life” – these were my words when I’ve just finished my second year at the university.
At that time, I thought my path should already be clear as my group mates and friends were already doing some crazy things like volunteering, working as event organizers for different companies, and just working somewhere. And I? I was uncertain about my future.
Some of them were already in relationships and working. Me? Well, I just didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do with my life. I just couldn’t figure it out.
I was only interested in playing computer games and chilling. Also, I was obsessed with my studying, but I just couldn’t comprehend how it was going to be, at least, of any use for me. Whatever I learned seemed pointless and so out of reach, so out of the market, that I just thought I will never find a job.
At whatever stage of life you’re now, just know that we’ve been there all, and you’re not alone. But in case you came here not for validation only, let’s jump right into the tips on what you can do if you don’t know what to do with your life.
When it comes to understanding what you want from life, the easiest way to do it is to stop looking at what other people do and focus on what you actually want.
There are will be hundreds of people whom you know and who are interested in absolutely anything, but not something that you’d be interested in doing too. It might leave you feeling down and out, so my advice for you is to focus on your wants and needs.
I want to stream gaming videos playing APEX.
I want to buy a flat.
I want to look like Kit Harington.
Don’t limit yourself. Let your imagination fly. So far so good right? Cool, let’s jump onto the next tip.
Now, when you’ve written down your needs and desires, you have to understand why you’re doing what you do. It’s a part of successful goal setting.
You have to prioritize your desires. If your list includes 10 or 20 wishes, it will be very hard to achieve because you’re not ready yet.
What’s more important to you? Look like Kit Harington (which is probably impossible) or buy a flat and do steaming (which can be easily measured and achieved)?
Cross out some of the desires of your list, and focus only on the things you find most exciting and realistic. Now, it’s time to set goals.
It’s cool to figure out what you want to do in life, but it’s much better to take action and actually achieve the things that you’ve planned. So, you have to set goals.
When it comes to goal setting, you need to focus on the most important aspects of goal setting:
What does it mean?
A realistic goal means anything that can potentially be achieved in the nearest future (1-5 years). As you can see, it’s by default time-bound. An example of unrealistic goal is “I want to always be happy”, “I want everything to be good”, etc.
A measurable goal is a goal which you can break down to even smaller milestones.
I want to become a gaming YouTube streamer.
I need: a microphone, a 1080p camera, a good laptop/desktop, a game to play, and a YouTube account.
We’ve just broken down this goal into achievable smaller goals which you have to organize.
So, you’ve got your goal set up. You know what to do with your life, and you’ve probably figured out what you need to achieve that goal. Now, you have to create a to-do list which will guide you during the process.
Do not waste your time on downloading fancy goal setting templates or to-do template lists, just take your notebook and a pen. Keep it simple.
Anything that is too hard or requires a lot of money investments is something that you should ignore because it will discourage you from doing things that you want to be doing.
Your to-do list should include everything that you can image and foresee. For example:
My list has just included seven points. Do I know what happens next? No, I have no clue. And I do not need to. I will figure it out as I go. Probably the next steps will include learning about video editing, video promotion, YouTube channel optimization, etc.
Remember. The process of goal setting and to-do list completion should be fun. If it doesn’t excite you – ignore it. But do not confuse excitement with hard work. You will definitely face a ton of pitfalls and obstacles, but you just have to keep doing what you do.
Just keep in mind that everything will go wrong. It’s okay. Your comfort zone will be severely attacked and you butt burned. But you have to keep going.
Note: When your gut tells you that something is not working out for you, you should probably change the strategy. It’s like you feel you just don’t belong here – listen to it carefully. Probably, you should start doing something else.
You shouldn’t be going alone. You have to connect to people on different social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, etc., or better meet in person.
Join groups, follow people who you admire or people who are starting out just like you. Learn from people who have already figured out what they want in life and how they do it, and talk to people who haven’t figured it out yet.
Help people who don’t know what to do with their lives yet, it will give you confidence and validation that you’re doing the right thing and your path is more or less clear. Helping others is a good sign of mindset maturity. Because only greedy and lost people do not help others.
That’s it. Just try different things and see what sticks. You’ve got one life to live, so if you don’t know what you want from it from the start, don’t get discouraged. You have the freedom to try millions of things and have fun.
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