One of my friends keeps telling me he is dead inside. At first, I was just making fun of him like real friends always do, ya know. It was kind of like a competition of who is more dead inside than the other. But then it clicked.
“How do I become dead inside and not care about anything and not feel bad?”
This is the question I stumbled upon on Quora.
Just read through it. As somebody who is feeling dead inside too, you probably understand what this person is trying to say.
There is a problem, so bad, that the person would rather feel numb than trying to fight it.
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Sometimes, it’s just so much easier to run away from the problem than to actually solve it. But hey, today, we aren’t running away.
Feeling dead inside is not a cause of all your problems – it’s the symptom.
Your problem is that you’re thinking about the problem too much. Where it gets really complicated is not when you think about the problem, but when you think that thinking about the problem is the problem.
How about that?
At this point, you can confidently claim that you’re feeling dead inside. Your thinking becomes the cause and the effect. It’s like a dream within a dream.
The problem with a double dream is that you can experience a false awakening. That might be the reason why you fall into depression again and again.
Obviously, you can’t tackle the non-existing problem. At least, not the way you do it.
For example, you want to find a girlfriend. How does that correlate with you checking memes, watching YouTube videos, playing games, and eating some chocolate bars non-stop?
But that’s classic. Here is my favorite.
Hating yourself so much that you believe you don’t deserve happiness and will never be able to find it. The only time you tried was enough for you, that’s why you’ll never try again. Moreover, you’re already getting along with simply being alone forever, but still, it makes you feel depressed.
Every single day you get back to this thought again and again just to remind yourself how useless your life is, how ugly you are and everybody else around you. The very few people you know are successful because they had the conditions and you don’t.
Nothing feels more alive than physical pain.
No, I’m not saying you should punch or cut yourself. Just do 20 push-ups and 15 squats.
Every time you try to jump on another 30-minute self-sabotage journey, force yourself to do sports instead. Exercising helps you refocus and concentrate on the present moment.
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Usually, when a person is feeling dead inside, there are several problems. It’s not just about having no girlfriend. Often times, it might also be the money problem.
If you’re obsessed with money, you may focus extensively on saving every dollar you make while restricting yourself from using your savings. That means that even if you want to do something exciting, something that you really want, you don’t allow yourself because of the money policies you’ve implied on yourself.
Well, if you want to stop feeling dead inside and start feeling happy again, then screw your policies. Spend a few hundred to make yourself feel good.
I know that you might be too stubborn to spend money, but hey, I’m sure you know where your next paycheck is coming from.
Don’t think further than you can see.
Imagine yourself driving a car at night on a distant road, can you see further than the lights go? You can only see 20 meters in front of you and you have to keep driving to see the next 20 meters.
Whatever your problem is, don’t think about it too much. Moreover, don’t try to predict what’s gonna happen without even being there or doing so.
So, don’t rely on your previous failures either.
I’ve recently watched this video by BetterIdeas on “Why Your Life is so Boring?” There was one concept that I wanted to mention. In a nutshell, your life is only happening today.
That being said if you want to make your life the way you want it to be – start right now.
If you were the cool who gets all the girls where would you go? What would you do?
If you were the person who lives the present moment only what would you spend this money on?
And hey, if you weren’t dead inside right now, what would you do?
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