I assume you want to develop your personality and be more charismatic because you found yourself in situations where somebody didn’t:
No worries. You’ve got now a ton of experience and historical data to work with.
Before you jump into developing your personality traits and charisma, you have to first understand what initial parameters you have.
There is one simple exercise which I described in this short e-book “Know Your Desires.” So, definitely check it out for more info.
The exercise is made of 3 questions you have to ask your friend about:
That will give you just enough information on your initial personality traits.
You see, people already know you as a person.
What people think and say about you is just the reflection of your own efforts. Well, of course, people have their own interpretations and opinions, but it’s you who is responsible for what people see in you.
Don’t believe me? Talk to different people and see how you communicate. You talk on different topics and behave differently. At work, you’re a professional. In life, you’re a mess.
There are other examples. But you set your own boundaries. You are a sort of an actor. The stage is yours.
You’re already charismatic in your own way. Being charismatic doesn’t always mean being a mad extrovert who talks to everybody while being insanely annoying, cracking jokes which they laugh at themselves.
There are quite a lot of other ways you can be charismatic.
These lads are the most charismatic and funniest people I’ve met on YouTube. The first two of them have personality traits that extend beyond the general understanding of charisma touching the horizons of dry humor and sarcasm.
Rudy is a guitarist who is at the moment of writing this article works at fast-food, but is about to go full-time on YouTube. Just look at his unique content as well as the sense of humor.
It’s absolutely amazing how he messes with the cringe, anxiety, and satire to create his piece of art. I was laughing my arse off watching his videos.
Ex-Google tech lead whose name is Patrick Shyu holds a YouTube channel called “TechLead.” His humor is beyond imagination and he is very charismatic even though he does not express any emotions whatsoever.
A legend says you never understand if he is actually joking on being serious. Check him out.
Sasha Strauss is a branding expert who talks about brand development, brand strategy, and marketing.
Check out how charismatic he is performing in front of a live audience. Not only the information he presents is easily consumable, even though these are very complicated concepts, but the energy and passion he talks with is just incredible.
I’d say be yourself, but that would be the most generic cliche bullshit. Instead, be comfortable.
As long as you’re comfortable playing your role, talking to another person, and being genuine – you’ll be alright.
Once you try to act someone who you’re not – this is where you get screwed.
So, be comfortable with yourself, and see how other people react to what you’re making yourself look like.
Try out different styles and approaches when you talk to people or joke and see how they respond. If that’s a repetitively and strictly negative response – change the strategy.
If it’s a negative response but you see them smiling – maybe you’ve just discovered their boundaries of dark humor or something.
Well, obviously, if it’s a positive response just keep tuning your charisma to perfection.
Although I keep referring to humor as a representation of your charisma, it doesn’t mean that it’s only humor that is making you charismatic.
Being charismatic is being visible. For example, next time you watch a movie look into how bad and good guys behave and see what makes them so attractive and charismatic.
Then, check out my article “How to Turn Useless Skills into a Meaningful Craft” and develop your own style.
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